Once I found out I was carrying a little one, I knew I had to give it up pretty sharpish, and wouldn’t be able to go back for at least nine months. I was really sad about leaving, but I always knew I’d be back as soon as I was able to.
Once Esme was born, I couldn’t wait to get back to pole dancing – it was all I could think about. I wanted my figure back, and looking at my new lumpy and bumpy body in the mirror was hard. I had rather a large post-birth baby belly (well, that’s what it felt like), and I desperately wanted to do something about it.
When I started doing pole dancing the first time around, I remember everything started to look good: I was more flexible, my bum had more of a shape, my belly became flat and curvy, and my arms and legs looked more toned than they ever had done. I wanted more than anything to get back to that, no matter how long it took me, and I couldn’t wait for the three months to be up before I joined again.
I had to wait for three months after Esme was born before I could come back, so in that time I took up running and did a little horse riding here and there to get my fitness up, which helped tremendously!
Once the three months were finally up, I was so excited to be going back to Defy Gravity. I dug out some shorts and a vest top, and trotted off to my first pole dancing lesson as a new mum.
I found it, surprisingly, not too bad! I thought I’d be awful – no control, balance – anything! But I remembered quite a lot about it. I still remembered how to do all the spins, be it a fireman spin, secretary or a sunwheel, I remembered them all.
Okay, I didn’t have them down to a tee, but I didn’t feel like a complete beginner like I thought I would. It gave me a newfound confidence in myself, realising I can actually be sexy (honest!).
Jamie has been a pole performer for 10 years and is a fantastic teacher. She looks flawless and makes everything look so easy. She’ll demonstrate what she wants you to do, and 90 percent of the time, I’m looking at her thinking: “You want me to do what!?”
Although after she’s shown us what she wants us to do, she’ll break it down into simpler steps, and it doesn’t seem so daunting any more.
But don’t be fooled – once you’ve mastered it any are spinning around the pole thinking: “Yeah, I’m a pro,” she’ll get you to do a more advanced variant of the move!
It’s not hard to feel motivated at pole dancing though, and I’m always jumping at the chance to progress to the next level.
Personally, I’ve felt much more confident going to the classes, and I can already feel the benefits of it. I can already feel that my waist is smaller, and opening jars isn’t half as hard as it used to be!
I’ve tried dance classes in the past, but they haven’t really been for me. I’ve always found them a bit vanilla, but I look forward to going to Defy Gravity every week.
I often leave at the end of the class feeling quite proud of myself, because each week I master something I couldn’t do the week before. Plus I don’t feel as shy jumping into a pair of shorts any more!
There’s a thing in pole dancing called ‘pain training’, which we do every week. It is, as the name suggests, painful! Holding onto the pole with your legs, underarm, elbow or the back of the knee (basically any sensitive part of your body) feels like a chinese burn, except it hurts more when you come off.
When you sit on the pole, you have to have your body close to it, have a baseball grip by your face and then lift your legs up and clench the pole with the top of your thighs, which stings like hell!
Jamie kept assuring us that the pain would go after four weeks, which on your first week, seems like a total lie. However, she’s not wrong. Four weeks into pole, and it doesn’t hurt half as much as it used to!
Climbing the pole is still a challenge though – I can get my first step up, but I haven’t managed a step further yet. As soon as I take my leg off to go up, my other leg seems to have a mind of its own and just decides to let go, as if it thinks: “Oh, time to get off now, is it?”
However, I have promised myself that I will do it one day! Hopefully sooner rather than later, though.
I do find Jamie’s amazing floor work the hardest to pull off. Leg tangles I can do – I wasn’t too bad at them before, but it’s these amazing cat stretches she does, which look absolutely fantastic, and sexy as hell! Me on the other hand, I don’t pull it off that well, and just look like I’m in pain.
Actually, that’s probably because I am!
Having completed my first four weeks with Defy Gravity, I’m extremely looking forward to starting my next four weeks. In this time, I’m really hoping I can begin to climb, and master a load more other moves!
I’ll let you know how I get on with it all!