Even though I’ve left The Pembrokeshire Herald, I still send in my weekly column to be published every Friday. This week, I spoke about how women are portrayed in the media, much to my distaste.
In magazines and on the television, women are shown what is fashionable and what is not. And, one of the things that I really hate – especially in magazines such as ‘Bella‘ or ‘Hello‘ – is “Who wore is better?”
As if women aren’t criticised for what they wear enough anyway, we then have the people that we look up to being shamed for their body image. Ridiculed because someone was showing a bit too much cleavage, or their clothes were slightly too tight.
We’re also showed women who have just become mothers, whose bodies look just as fantastic as they were before they had children. We’re told that if we are young, then our bodies will “snap back,” but this is not the case. Our bodies don’t snap back at all, and it gives people an unrealistic idea of themselves after they give birth.
The reality is very different. Most of us will not look like we did before, and our bodies will be changed forever.
Women are told that we shouldn’t wear too much make up because it looks “fake” or “plastic,” and that wearing make up is deceiving, and when women wear make up they’re “lying” about what they look like. But, surely people aren’t silly enough to think women genuinely have gold eyelids?
We’re told to look natural, because it’s “more beautiful.” But, if a woman does not wear make up, she’s judged even further, as people will think she does not look after herself. That she’s “let herself go.”
Many women will feel that they cannot leave the house without make up, because they do not feel pretty or confident enough. And, to be honest, some days I feel the same.
You know what I say? Do what you want. If you want to wear black eyeshadow and red lipstick, do it! Don’t buy into what the magazines say, when they tell you that you can’t have dark colours on your lips and your eyes.
If you want to wear high heels, but the “designers” on the television have told you that you’re way too tall to wear them and you’ll be towering over everybody else, don’t listen to them. Wear those heels and strut your stuff around the town.
Dare to be who you are and who you want to be. For anybody to tell you how you should look or how you should act is disrespectful to who you are as a person. There is only one of you, and you are unique.