As most of you are aware, it’s been in the news recently that Dr Charlotte Reznick said that kissing children on the lips is too ‘sexual’ and confusing.
At first I didn’t pay this much attention, but after seeing all the beautiful photos surfacing of people kissing their children on the lips on social media, I decided to read in to what was actually said.
I found out that Dr Charlotte Reznick had said that a kiss on the lips ‘can be stimulating’ for a child, and added: “If mummy kisses daddy on the mouth and vice versa, what does that mean, when I, a little girl or boy, kiss my parents on the mouth?”
I found this a very weird thing to say, and I proceeded to ask a few adults what their opinion on it was. Most were outraged by the comments, but a few agreed, saying it was ‘disgusting’, which really got me thinking. While I was surprised that some people had a problem with it, I realised that what Dr Reznick has actually done, is make parents question how they show their child affection.
Parents question themselves from the day they realise they’re having a baby. Pregnancy brings about a tonne of worries, such as what you should be doing, eating and drinking, just to name a few. Then, once the baby arrives, you’re already pressurised and judged about the way you dress, feed, or even hold your baby.
The list is endless.
I’ve never kissed Esme on the lips, but her dad has. But what the most annoying thing is, until now, I’ve never thought about it! I haven’t made a conscious decision not to kiss her on the lips, and now I’m questioning why – maybe I should? Maybe I shouldn’t?
Then, I came to the conclusion that is really doesn’t matter at all how your kiss your kids.
The statement that a kiss on the lips is too sexual, really is ridiculous. Where do you draw the line? Does that mean I have to be careful when changing her nappy and putting cream on her bum? Am I not allowed to hold her daddy’s hand, because that’s confusing, too?
It surprises me how many people have opinions on things that don’t even matter. From gender specific toys to how you kiss your baby – it really doesn’t matter in the slightest.
If Esme wants to dress in a Superman costume then she can, and if she wants to kiss me on the lips, then she can, and it’s nobody else’s business.
I remember dressing her in a Ramones jumper and jeans one day, because that’s how her dad and I dress! People would comment, saying: “People won’t know if she’s a boy or a girl!”
So what? She’s got a band t-shirt on and some jeans, just like her Mummy.
I often look in the boys clothing section, because there’s items of clothing in there labelled boys, but it’s actually unisex. I bought Esme a Tigger onesie from the boys section once – I have no idea why it was in there! But when she wears it, she’s not dressed like a boy, she’s dressed like Tigger.
We all just have to remember that it’s nobody’s business but your own how you raise your child, and as long as your baby is happy then who can fault you?