With the election of Donald Trump, people have been talking about his opinion regarding abortion, which in a way is a good thing. It’s something that I feel needs to be talked about, and not be so much of a taboo.
Unfortunately, there is still a lot of stigma around abortion. Let’s not pretend it’s an easy thing to do. I don’t know how at 24 weeks, when you’re able to find out the gender and have most likely seen the baby on two scans and felt them moving inside you, that you could still have an abortion if you wanted to.
But, this doesn’t mean that I don’t agree with abortion all together. I would never in a million years, chastise somebody or make them feel like a horrible human being for going through with an abortion.
It’s a process that I’d imagine brings so much pain, with the fear of being shamed by your friends and family.
One of the arguments that many people bring about is “There are plenty of couples out there who would love to have a baby, and here you are with the chance of being a parent and you’re taking that life away.”
The sentence itself is just one major guilt strip to start with. Yes there are plenty of people in the world who are infertile and struggling to conceive, but that doesn’t mean that you should therefore carry a child and give birth when it’s not something that you want.
If your friend really wants an iPhone and you don’t want one, if somebody offered you an iPhone, should you accept it and use it every day, for the simple reason that if your friend was given an iPhone they would love it. But, you don’t even want an iPhone – you can’t stand them. You’ve never wanted an iPhone and you never will.b
Seems ridiculous to accept it, right? So why do we have the same mentality about pregnancy?
Of course, having a baby for some people would be the best thing that’s happened to them in their entire lives. I have to admit, if I fell pregnant now I wouldn’t be unhappy or sad.
But, for some women, it could be their worst nightmare. They might never have wanted children, and to be forced to go through with the pregnancy, and either give the child away at the end of it or be a mother is something that shouldn’t imposed on anybody.
Whether I understand it or not is irrelevant. I don’t think I could personally ever go through with an abortion, but that doesn’t mean I don’t think somebody else shouldn’t go through with it either.
Other people might feel they are too old, too young, not financially capable or just not cut out to be a parent just yet. There are so many reasons to consider.
I guess all I wanted to say is having an abortion is selfish. But sometimes it’s okay to be selfish.