I didn’t realise before I fell pregnant how difficult it would be to come to terms with the changes that happened to my body.
Thankfully my pregnancy was wonderful and I didn’t have any problems with it at all (that was until the day before I gave birth, but that’s a different story). However, even though I thought I was prepared for my body to change, I wasn’t, and I found it difficult to come to terms with my larger body, which was becoming more stretched and more rugged-looking by the day.
I mean, I know this photo of me below isn’t the most flattering one, but it shows you that I was a heck of a lot smaller than I am now. This was less than a year before I fell pregnant.
I also didn’t realise how long it would take me to recover from birth. I thought that my stomach would go back to normal pretty quickly, but here we are, two years and five months later, and it still isn’t what it used to be.
So, when I saw a photo of Beyoncé with her twins, Sir Carter and Rumi, of course there was a part of me that was jealous and wished that I could have looked that amazing after giving birth, but mostly, I felt in awe of how beautiful she looks.
It surprised me (although to a certain extent I wasn’t surprised at all) to see thousands of comments saying how it’s not ‘real’, and talking about how much they dislike the photo, purely because she looks fantastic.
I know how hard it is to feel good about yourself in the weeks, months and years after having a baby. It’s bloomin’ difficult! And, there’s no way I would ever tear someone down for looking beautiful after having a baby.
I saw lots of ‘Beyoncé vs Regular Motherhood’ photos surfacing, with cartoon drawings of a mum with dirty, baggy clothes, unwashed hair, sick on them (from the baby, might I add) and whatever else, next to the photo of Beyoncé holding her twins.
To be honest, it started to get on my nerves. We don’t know what she looks like when she’s at home, without her make up on, getting up for what feels like the millionth time throughout the night.
We also don’t know if someone else tends to the twins during the night, or if a nanny looks after them so she can get some sleep. Even if she does, so what?
But even Joe Bloggs isn’t going to go for a photo shoot with dirty clothes on and unwashed hair, are they?
Of course, if you put yourself in the limelight you are bound to get criticism flying at you from all angles, but it surprised me to see that this time, the abuse was coming from parents.
I just wish we could all just appreciate that she’s a mum, and stop being so mean to each other about the way we look, whether you’re a superstar or not.